Life After Divorce

Picking up where I left off after the “Confession” series, leaves us with life after divorce.  As I mentioned in my last post, I started a new beginning for myself, and my girls too by default.  It was easier this time, not only because I had “been there, done that”, but because I wasn’t going at it alone.  I had the Lord.  He had shown me that all those past mistakes were in the past.  I had repented for it all.  I had cried a million plus tears over it all.  I had paid some consequences for those decisions.  And through all of that, God showed me over and over again that He was there with me.  He consoled me.  He showed me things in scripture to help ease pain and self-inflicted torment.  He comforted me.  He put people in my life to help me even if it was just for this season only.

So, while it still wasn’t easy, it was easier than the first time and I healed faster because of Him.  I also made a very definitive decision to not date for at least 1 full year.  I needed that time to be drawn back to God, to grow and mature, to heal, to spend time with my girls, and to spend time on self-discovery.  Only then would I be ready to look at a life with someone new.

After about a year and a half, I started going on a date or two here and there.  It was so different than after my first divorce.  I was quick to see through people.  I was not desperate for companionship because I found that I was better off alone than with the wrong person.  That helped me see people in a different light.  I had a new list of priorities regarding men and their beliefs.  I would not consider anyone that didn’t already believe in God and every single first date (if not before) included a conversation around the Lord.  It was easy to be selective once I knew exactly what I didn’t want.  The longest “relationship” I had after my second divorce was about 3 weeks.

Don’t get me wrong.  I was still making stupid decisions during some of this time.  But my God was so faithful to show me those errors, I would repent, He would forgive me, and I would move on in a different direction.  Ultimately, I got to the point that I was tired of dating people only to find out they weren’t right for me.  So I quit dating again after about a year or so of this sort of dating.  For the next year or more, I spent time with friends, my girls, my family, myself and God.  We never missed a Sunday at church.  We were at every single Sunday service during that time.  I needed that and so did my girls.

God blessed me beyond all my imagination.  I began a new job that afforded me the opportunity to buy a new car and to continue to live in the house my 2^nd ex and I had bought together.  Life was good.

And then it became incredible…(another cliff hanger)

In His love,

~Jennifer

 

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